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SIMON JAMES BRUNTON

19th July 1982 - 18th April 1998

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Learning to live with deafness

We all learned to live with the problems of Simon's deafness and worked hard to ensure that Simon could talk properly and be understood by most. He grew into a confident, talkative schoolboy. Then when he was six years old his teacher thought that he had a problem with his eyesight, if he looked up from his workbook he couldn't see what was written on the blackboard. We took him to the optician and she told us to go to our doctor and ask for a referral to an opthalmologist. We went to see our family doctor who took one look at Simon's eyes and decided he didn't have a problem. The doctor said that the pigment that the optician had seen at the back of Simon's eyes was akin to one person having freckles and another person not. Being the trusting souls that we were, we went away quite satisfied with that answer.

However, 6 months later at Simon's regular eye check-up the optician asked if we had been to see the opthalmologist and we told her what our doctor had said. She was not very happy and said that she would talk to the doctor personally and that we were to make another appointment to see him and insist on a referral. The referral was the start of many visits to many different hospitals over the next year and a half, before we finally saw someone who told us that Simon had a degenerative eye disease called Retinitis Pigmentosa and could possibly be blind by the age of 15. On the retina of our eyes we have rods and cones which reflect light, thus helping to produce the images we see. These rods and cones are normally regenerative, but in people with RP, once the rods and cones die the reflective area becomes less and they develop tunnel-vision or blurred patches within their line of sight.

Once again we were devastated and once again, because there was no family history of such things, we were told 'it just happens'. There was no information available to take home with us and what the doctor had told us left us so shocked that we could hardly remember anything about it. That seems to happen when you get really bad news, you hear the words, but your mind doesn't take them in. All we could remember was the doctor telling us that Simon had night-blindness and tunnel vision already. All of a sudden we knew why Simon always wanted to hold a hand if we were out of an evening and why he seemed to fall over his own feet. The combination of the deafness with the RP, results in a condition known as Usher Syndrome. We felt as though our world had fallen apart, our whole future had been altered by this diagnosis.

We got home from the hospital that evening and we immediately started searching for some information. To our amazement we found a wonderful lady called Mary Guest, who worked for SENSE - that's the Deaf-Blind and Rubella Association - and she lived just 10 minutes away from us! She came to visit the very next evening and brought us lots of information, but one thing that she said shone out above all else. It was that Simon was the same little boy on the day after the diagnosis, as he was the day before, it was only our perception of him that had changed. It was hearing those words that made us decide that we were not going to let this condition ruin Simon's life, he would be encouraged to do whatever he wanted to do.


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Over the following few months we came to terms with the news and again decided we needed a positive attitude. OK, so Simon had another problem, but he was still our son whom we loved so much and he deserved to get as much as possible out of life. Amy was always so supportive of Simon and we tried especially hard not to treat Simon any differently to the way we treated Amy. It didn't stop them arguing, just like any other brother and sister! Simon would never let anything get the better of him, if he wanted to do something he would do it. He rode his bike, went rock-climbing and abseiling with the Scouts, had a pair of roller skates and would have a go at everything that was on offer. We would often just close our eyes and pray that whatever he tried he came away unhurt. No different to any other parents really! You know that you have to give them their freedom, but you can't help worrying about them, can you? We just got on with the job of encouraging Simon to be as confident as possible.

Simon was statemented for special educational needs, so we got help through the school, but we always had to fight for it, even though it was his right, it never came easy. There were times when we wanted to give up fighting, when we felt too weary, but then we came to the conclusion that our children only have us to look after their interests, so if we didn't fight for Simon's rights, then no-one would.


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When Simon was 13 he was a confident young man who would speak to anybody and be understood. With the help of a few special aids to learning he would take part in all his school lessons and was in the top 10% of his class, despite his difficulties. Everyone who taught him always commented on his eagerness to please and to do his very best. In the Sping Term of '93 he won the Endeavour Cup for his efforts in his school-work and his determination to overcome his disabilities. In his first year in Senior school, he won a Pegasus Book Prize for Endeavour in Technology and German, Attainment in History and Progress in Geography. This was quite an achievement considering how much harder it was for Simon to do the work with his sight and hearing problems. Although Simon wore glasses, he would still have to have his school-work prepared in a size 24 font, for him to be able to see it comfortably. He was the kind of boy who would always worry about others before himself, he hated to see anyone being bullied or teased and would often stand up to a bully who was picking on someone else. He really was such a caring, sharing, loving child.

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